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3 Mediation Myths You Should Know


If you and your spouse are agreeable to settling issues in your case or already agree on many issues, mediation may be a great fit in contrast to litigation.

Not only does the process offer greater control over the divorce process, but it also protects your privacy and is often quicker than traditional court because much of it is kept outside the courtroom. Because it’s still a newer trend in divorce, many couples aren’t quite sure what mediation is or feel as if they know what it is but may actually believe myths they’ve heard.

Below, we discuss the 3 most common mediation myths and what you should actually know about mediation in their place.

  1. My spouse and I don’t get along well enough to participate in mediation.

To be sure, mediation isn’t a viable option for every couple. If you can’t be in the same room as your spouse, mediation isn’t going to work. Likewise, if you don’t trust your spouse to be honest about assets or there is a history of abuse, you may not want to explore mediation as an option.

However, mediation works for couples who can speak to each other and understand that compromise is necessary in the divorce process. You don’t have to love your spouse or have no issues with them for mediation to work. You simply must be willing to discuss the issues and remain on topic as to what will work best as a solution.

  1. I can’t work with a mediator – they will be biased one way or another.

Unlike collaborative divorce where both you and your spouse hire your own attorneys and then work together to reach an agreement, mediation requires only one, third party professional. This person is not hired to represent your interests or your spouse’s interests but is there only to facilitate discussion and help you reach an agreement.

Remember: The mediator you hire only wants to help both you and your spouse reach an amicable agreement. There will be no bias one way or another.

  1. I can’t go to mediation my case is too complicated.

Mediation isn’t only for simple cases. In fact, mediation can work for any case – high asset cases included.

Keep in mind that the goal of mediation is to keep you and your spouse in control of the situation and your assets. By working with a mediator to divide assets, debts, and resolve other issues, you will save money and likely be more satisfied with your settlement in the process.

Contact Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd. for Additional Information on Mediation 

If you’re interested in mediation as an alternative dispute resolution and an attractive option in contrast to litigation, Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd. can help. With over 35 years of experience in options such as mediation and, more recently, collaborative divorce, we will help ensure you pursue the option most suitable to your unique case.

Contact Larry at 630-470-9990 to discuss mediation as an option in your divorce and to take advantage of your free, 30-minute consultation. If you would prefer to request a consultation online, you can do so through our simple online form.

We look forward to your call and exploring all of the options available to you in your divorce case.

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About Attorney Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd.

Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd. is a law firm concentrating solely on family law and has served clients in DuPage, Will, Kane, and Kendall counties for over 35 years.

We continue to work with clients in Naperville, Wheaton, Lisle, Oswego, Downers Grove, and the surrounding areas to provide one-on-one support and attention that will help you through this difficult time.

If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact us at any time. We look forward to offering our expertise and support to you throughout your case and after.