Creating a parenting schedule can be difficult enough when your kids are in school. However, once summer vacation hits, it can be even more complicated, especially for parents who have recently divorced. Many parents are concerned over summer vacation for good reason: With the kids no longer in school, it’s difficult for parents to manage time, run errands, and otherwise meet the needs of shuffling the kids around from sport to sport or event to event.
But, does it have to be?
In this article, we address some of the most common summer scheduling concerns and what you can do to lessen their ill effects on your already hectic lifestyle.
Concern #1: There are unforeseen challenges that are going to throw off your entire schedule.
If you’re worried about the uncertainty that a summer schedule brings, it’s best to start planning early. This means you should schedule out all of your child’s activities, where they need to be, and when. This will make it easier to coordinate with your former spouse and eliminate the surprises that make even getting to work complicated.
The best way to do this is to start broadly and narrow down the schedule concerns into smaller pieces. For example, consider each month and the holidays or events that are to take place and then consider each week, and so on and so forth. This is the most manageable way to eliminate surprises and ensure both you and your kids are where you need to be each week.
Concern #2: Your children will be unhappy with the rigidity in what’s typically a flexible summer schedule.
Kids live for the summer. It’s where they typically have free reign over their days and are able to relax and come and go as they please. However, summer can affect this in a negative way.
One of the biggest mistakes to make when considering parenting time is that your kids won’t have a say. This is especially true if your children are a bit older, particularly around the middle school years.
While there will always be practical limitations on how much of a say your children will have, this isn’t to say that they shouldn’t be able to voice their opinions. Subsequently, include them in on the conversation about summer – it’s best for the entire family.
Concern #3: You and your former spouse will be unable to come to an agreement.
One of the most significant concerns most clients have is that they just won’t be able to agree with their former spouse on a parenting schedule. And, should this occur, it’s important to remember that you aren’t out of options. In fact, you can always return to court, or go to mediation, to work out your problems.
Remember: It’s in your best interests to not further a fight, as it will only make it more difficult to reach a resolution.
Contact Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd., Your Naperville Divorce Attorney
If you’re fretting about your summer parenting schedule or have any questions related to divorce, Lawrence R. Surinak Ltd. can help. Larry has over 35 years in divorce carefully negotiating complicated issues like this on behalf of clients.
Speak with Larry today by calling 630-470-9990 or submitting our simple online form to request an appointment time. We look forward to offering our assistance in any way necessary during this difficult time.